Easy steps to choosing Adoption
If you cannot keep your child and you don’t really want to choose termination through abortion. Your Baby can give hope to a childless couple and become a member of a loving family.
Options Plus Care (OPC) can walk you through these steps and assist you with the adoption process, helping with agencies and foster carers.
Call an adoption professional
Understanding adoption (US link) is the first step in your d decision-making process. If you have already decided that you would like to put your baby up for adoption, an adoption professional will help you make a plan and discover your needs during your pregnancy. If you have not made your decision, he or she will explain the process to you and give you all the information you need to make a decision.
Make a plan to give up baby for adoption
Your specialist will explain all of your options help you determine how you would like your adoption process to continue. They will help you plan your Labor and hospital stay, and depending on your financial and social situation, they can direct you to government programs that will assist you with healthcare costs and groceries. They also can help you obtain housing, food and supplies, maternity clothes, and other items necessary as you continue with your pregnancy. They will collect your medical history and the medical history of the father if he is known. Your adoption professional should also offer to provide counselling, whether through an on-staff counsellor or a third-party counsellor.
Determine type of adoption
There are three different types of relationships you can have with an adoptive family: open, semi-open and closed. You are able to decide what type of contact, if any, you would like to have with the adoptive family and the child. Some women choose only to receive pictures and letters once a year, but if you want, you can have more contact and even in-person visits.
Choose the family
The level of contact you will have with your child and the adoptive family is up to you. You are not required to choose the adoptive family, but many pregnant mothers enjoy the experience of learning about and ultimately selecting the family that will parent their child.
The agency you choose will send you information about adoptive families so that you can learn about their interests, careers, parenting styles, and excitement to become parents through adoption. You can begin searching for potential adoptive parents at any time by viewing waiting families’ adoption profiles online.
Many women find that they form a connection with a family after seeing their profile and discovering similar interests or values. Once you have decided on a family, you can choose to have an in-person meeting or a phone interview with them. During this conversation, you will be able to get to know the family better and let them know your wishes during the rest of the process. You should feel free to address any questions, thoughts or even concerns you might have.
Welcome your baby
Before the birth of your baby, you will have already gone over your hospital and delivery plan with your adoption specialist. Once you go into Labor, immediately notify your adoption specialist and they will contact the adoptive family. After delivery, you can spend as much time as you would like with your baby. Whether you had a natural birth or a C-section, you will most likely be discharged within 72 hours, and depending on the state in which you live, you will sign the birth parent relinquishment papers before you leave the hospital.
Preparing for the relinquishment
Adoption is a lifelong choice, and many women find that they need help after the relinquishment. The adoption specialist will be there for you not only during your pregnancy, but also after you have signed the relinquishment papers. They will help you work through your thoughts on the adoption and prepare you for the various types of emotions you will feel.
Many women find that contact with other mothers who also put their baby up for adoption is helpful. Your adoption specialist can put you in contact with other women who have been in your position and can even direct you toward local support groups if you are interested.
If you pursued an open adoption, you will also have the support of the adoptive family and the comfort of seeing your child. In an open adoption, relinquishment is not a “good-bye,” but the beginning of a unique and beautiful relationship between you, your child, and the family you’ve chosen.
The adoption process is different for every woman, depending on what she needs during her pregnancy and what she wants for her adoption plan. If you are considering adoption for your baby, you may call 1-800-ADOPTION or read the following to learn more about how to place your baby up for adoption. You can also begin searching for adoptive parents here. Remember, browsing adoption profiles or requesting more adoption information never obligates you to complete the adoption process.
Questions you may have:
Who looks after my child before the adoptive placement?
If you are seriously considering adoption, arrangements can be made for the temporary care of your child before you give consent to adoption. This ensures that, for example, new-born
babies do not have to stay in hospital longer than is medically necessary. As you would still be the parent of the child at this stage, it will be necessary for you to authorise the adoption agency to arrange for the care of your child. To do this you sign a form called a childcare agreement. The adoption agency will then arrange a pre-adoptive foster care placement for your child. Your child will not be placed with an adoptive family at this stage but will remain with the foster care family until the end of the period during which you can withdraw consent.
What if I am undecided? Or I change my mind?
If you decide not to proceed with signing consent, or later withdraw consent, the child is returned to your care.
Can I visit my child in foster care?
If you sign a childcare agreement and your child is placed in foster care, you have the right to make regular visits to your child. Specific arrangements for visiting will be discussed between you and your counsellor and the foster care agency. The adoption agency will discuss arrangements for further visits once the period for withdrawing your consent has ended.
What happens when the adoption consent is signed?
When adoption consent is signed and becomes final, you give up all your rights and responsibilities as a parent. Consent to adoption cannot be given until sixteen days after the birth of the child. This information must be given to the parent(s) at least seven days before consent is signed. This is to make sure that you have enough time to think about all the information in this pamphlet and to consider the alternatives to adoption. If you consent to the adoption of your child, it is expected that you understand the effects of an adoption order. No other person should have influenced your decision by using threats or undue pressure.
Who needs to sign consent?
Sometimes both parents attend counselling and sign consent and at other times only the mother is involved. The law requires that if the father of the child is known, the adoption agency will try to involve him in the discussion about adoption and ascertain his wishes about signing consent. He must be informed when the mother has signed an adoption consent. He then has the opportunity to legally establish that he is the father. This will be established automatically if his name is on the birth certificate. If he has established that he is the father, he will need to sign an adoption consent before the child can be adopted. In some cases, the court may dispense with the need to notify the father. The court may also dispense with the need for the father to sign consent in certain situations.
How is consent given?
Consent is given in the presence of a court official and the counsellor from the adoption agency. This takes place at an office of the County Court or, in the country at the County and Magistrates Court. Your counsellor will explain the arrangements for giving consent and will be able to provide you with copies of the forms which are to be signed. The counsellor and the court official need to be certain that you understand the ways in which you and your child will be affected if you consent to adoption.
Can I express any wishes about the adoptive parents?
You can express in writing your wishes about the religion, race and ethnic background of the adoptive parents. You can do this at any time before or after you sign consent to adoption, but before placement with the adoptive family. The adoption agency must carefully consider
your wishes and try to find a suitable family for your child. You cannot name specific people you would like to be adoptive parents for your child. However, at the end of the period for revoking consent, you may, if you wish, express a preference for a family from a small number of non-identifying descriptions of approved families suggested by the agency.
Can I express wishes about contact and information exchange?
After signing an adoption consent you are given the opportunity to indicate your wishes in writing:
• whether you and/or a relative want contact with the child after adoption and, if so, how often
• whether you would like information about your child to be provided after the adoption and, if so, how often
• whether you would like the conditions for contact and information exchange included in the adoption order Your wishes are carefully considered by the adoption agency when placing the child; and by the court when granting an adoption order. Contact and information exchange should be discussed in detail with your adoption agency.
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